This year our Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's was so much more love filled and calmer than last year. We celebrated Jesus' birth and we enjoyed our family getting together for the first time in quite a while. Having my oldest son and grandson at the house is beyond words. I was completely thrilled to have them and cherish the pictures I have of them. I pray that we will stay close and not go so long seeing each other again. Tabby, Martin and the girls, Trina, Jeff and the girls, Jake, Britt and their children, my Dad, my sister Trish and her friend Karl and his daughter and Trish's boys were here. What a glorious time together. Our gift to our children this year was giving them their pictures as they were growing up. It took a lot of work and with Greg's help it was accomplished. I think each one of our children enjoyed their walk down memory lane. It truly was a special time and GOD made it all possible.
Zack did pretty good this year too with the holiday celebrations and all the excitement leading up to the "big" day when "Santa" arrived. He had a few rough days at school but he worked through them. He was a tad bit disappointed that he did not get an X-Box 360 but the Wii is okay for second best. He loves Legos and received quite a few of them too. If he could build a huge city in his room of Legos, he would. Maybe one day he will. Zack talked a lot about his Mom (which broke my heart) and told of one Christmas when they were at their apartment. He said that he got his Scooby Do dog and he knew his Mom got it for him even though she said Santa gave it to him...he said he knew it was his Mom. He said he misses her a lot and hopes one day she will come to visit. I know he has to miss her but right now his heart is still hurting from the pain and agony that she put him and his sisters through that I fear it would bring back the nightmares, the bad behavior and the fear of her taking him away. I laid it at GOD's feet and know that GOD will guide me and show me the way for Zack. I trust totally in GOD's love and care. HE and only HE knows exactly what those children went through and HE and only HE knows where they are best at. Yes, one day a visit would be nice, I miss my daughter and want to know she is okay, but right now is not a good time, I think the children and us need to heal. She did send a short message to the kids at Christmas via my phone/text messaging. Just saying tell the kids Merry Christmas. Oh well...at least she thought of them.
Greg and I have been battling bronchitis and it just doesn't want to go away. Taking meds to clear it up but I think I will have to have another round of antibiotics and Greg's cough is not getting any better. It worries me greatly. For those of you who didn't know it, Greg had a heart attack in 2007, it was a mild one requiring a week's stay in the Cardiac Care Unit and a stint placed in his heart to open a severe blockage. This past September he went to the heart doctor appointment (one the doctor made and sent paperwork to confirm the appointment) and when Greg arrived at the doctor's office, the receptionist told him that he didn't have an appointment and he would have to reschedule. He was pretty upset and has not rescheduled and is no longer taking his heart meds (which he said were maintenance and not preventative). I worry about him and pray that he will go to a new heart doctor to be checked out and get back on the meds that are necessary in his life. He says we can't afford them. I disagree, we will do without other things if that is why he quit taking them. Sometimes he can be so frustrating but I love him even more.
Have you ever watched a movie or show that touched your life? Made you think? Have you step back from yourself and look at how you live, how you act, how you treat others? I watched that type of movie the other night. Yes, it is a Christian based movie and was very well put together. "Facing the Giant" doesn't have any big stars in it, it is not a movie that was shown on the "big screen" or had huge reviews but it should have! It is excellent and if I could suggest that you watch it please do. It is well worth it! There is one part in the movie that has me thinking that I need to do more. It is the comment made about "Preparing your fields while waiting for the rains to come." It touched me in a way that I am rethinking how I do things and what I can do more for Zack and Greg and all of my family to make things better in their lives through GOD. A very good movie, please take a moment to watch it.
I will sign off for now. I pray daily for all of my family and friends. I know prayers are answered by GOD not always how we wish them to be but HE does answer all prayers in HIS time. Patience is something that doesn't come easy for me, but I am learning to lean on GOD and let HIM show me the way, the light and the glory!!
God bless you!!
Monday, January 10, 2011
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Christmas Day 2010 and many blessings!
The anticipation of the coming Christmas holiday was very exciting. Zack was so ready for gifts and family. Greg was decorating a lot around the house and outside too. This year Greg added to our Christmas light display by making a sign stating Jesus is the Reason and then he made a very nice 3-D star. He has had a few issues over the past couple of weeks with the lights, but he climbs up on the roof and diligently works on them to keep the lights going for all to see. The house is decorated nicely and it feels good...it feels happy.
Christmas Eve we went with Tabby and Martin and the kids to Neiderman's Farm. It is a nice place where they have lights up and tell the story of Jesus and his birth. It was a very nice walk...thank goodness it wasn't snowing...the ground was pretty well covered already. From there we came home and tucked Zack in and prepared for Santa's arrival.
Christmas Day morning arrived, we had to wake Zack up to get him downstairs. When he finally came down, he opened his gifts and was surprised with them. I think he was a tad bit disappointed that he didn't get an X-Box 360 / Kinect but he did get a WII which I hope he starts to enjoy more. He received a lot of other nice gifts and then he gave a gift that means a lot to me. He and Greg bought a pencil/picture cube for Zack to put together. Zack did, he sanded it, varnished it and then put it all together. It is very nice and I love it. Trying to decide if I will take it to work or leave it here at home...not sure yet, but I do love it...
Time for the family to arrive, it was so nice to have four of my children under one roof again. Tabby, Trina, Jake and Chris filled my day with so much love and happiness I thank GOD every moment for it. Visiting with my grandchildren is always a special treat but having my oldest grandson Jacob T here was truly wonderful! I got a lot of hugs...I cannot tell you how happy I am from the lovely gift that I received yesterday...my family is very special to me and just made it perfect being together.
Thank you GOD for all that you do in my life. May it continue to give me strength to make it to the next day and continue to show me the way that you want me to take. THANK YOU GOD!!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
Hugs from Paula
Christmas Eve we went with Tabby and Martin and the kids to Neiderman's Farm. It is a nice place where they have lights up and tell the story of Jesus and his birth. It was a very nice walk...thank goodness it wasn't snowing...the ground was pretty well covered already. From there we came home and tucked Zack in and prepared for Santa's arrival.
Christmas Day morning arrived, we had to wake Zack up to get him downstairs. When he finally came down, he opened his gifts and was surprised with them. I think he was a tad bit disappointed that he didn't get an X-Box 360 / Kinect but he did get a WII which I hope he starts to enjoy more. He received a lot of other nice gifts and then he gave a gift that means a lot to me. He and Greg bought a pencil/picture cube for Zack to put together. Zack did, he sanded it, varnished it and then put it all together. It is very nice and I love it. Trying to decide if I will take it to work or leave it here at home...not sure yet, but I do love it...
Time for the family to arrive, it was so nice to have four of my children under one roof again. Tabby, Trina, Jake and Chris filled my day with so much love and happiness I thank GOD every moment for it. Visiting with my grandchildren is always a special treat but having my oldest grandson Jacob T here was truly wonderful! I got a lot of hugs...I cannot tell you how happy I am from the lovely gift that I received yesterday...my family is very special to me and just made it perfect being together.
Thank you GOD for all that you do in my life. May it continue to give me strength to make it to the next day and continue to show me the way that you want me to take. THANK YOU GOD!!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
Hugs from Paula
Friday, December 3, 2010
First week of December 2010
What a week. Lots of positive happening in our lives and some negative too.
The negative is not always have enough money to do what we want, we pay bills and live with what we can but we get by and enjoy life as we can.
Now the positive, ZACK has a magnificent week at school all five days. That is a record for him. He is growing, learning and most of all controlling his behavior in a more positive manner. He feels the changes himself and the pride he shows is really wonderful! To think a year ago at this time we really were struggling and praying hard that things would turn around for him. It has take a full year for this transformation and we are truly blessed and thanking GOD on the highest!! I know there will be days/weeks/months that Zack isn't doing well but the days/week/months that he is, is a major celebration for him and he deserves it!!
Why the changes, we are not sure. I feel that things are just starting to click for him. He is beginning to realize that there is structure and it is not going to change. There is stability and we have proven that with our lifestyle and with a very positive team of folks who help Zack everyday. There is an over abundance of love...Zack tells us he loves us a lot each and every day. We tell him too! Lots of hugs and kisses. There is GOD who believes in Zack and is showing us how to guide Zack in life. It isn't always going to be wonderful and great for him but each and every positive is one step closer to a better life for him as he grows older.
We have not heard anything from the natural Mom since my last posting and that is fine. She can just be happy in Arkansas with the choices she has made and we are delighted to have Zack, Katie and Jadden shining a special light of love in our lives.
So what are you doing for Christmas? Do you have any traditions? I would love to start some...especially for the grandbabies. My parents really didn't have a tradition that I can share, but they were always good to us and our Christmas was celebrated with our family, Aunts/Uncles/Grandparents and friends. I remember visiting my Grandpa Lucas' house and each family had a Christmas tree and under it was packed with presents from Santa. Their was always something special but one Christmas I received glass procelein dolls from around the world and just fell in love with them. I begged my Dad to build shelves above my drapes in my bedroom or a shelf so I could display them, he never did and they got broke and finally tossed away. I had twelve dolls and they were beautiful but I think Switzerland was the best one, she was just beautiful. They were the size of a Barbie doll and immaculately dressed. Wish I had those dolls today...not for the dollar value but for the sentimental value. My Grandpa died that next spring and we did not have another Christmas with his family again. Sad but true.
Well I shall sign off for now. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and my ramblings.
May God shine His light upon you, May you carry in your heart His everlasting love and share it with others around you!
Hugs!
Paula
The negative is not always have enough money to do what we want, we pay bills and live with what we can but we get by and enjoy life as we can.
Now the positive, ZACK has a magnificent week at school all five days. That is a record for him. He is growing, learning and most of all controlling his behavior in a more positive manner. He feels the changes himself and the pride he shows is really wonderful! To think a year ago at this time we really were struggling and praying hard that things would turn around for him. It has take a full year for this transformation and we are truly blessed and thanking GOD on the highest!! I know there will be days/weeks/months that Zack isn't doing well but the days/week/months that he is, is a major celebration for him and he deserves it!!
Why the changes, we are not sure. I feel that things are just starting to click for him. He is beginning to realize that there is structure and it is not going to change. There is stability and we have proven that with our lifestyle and with a very positive team of folks who help Zack everyday. There is an over abundance of love...Zack tells us he loves us a lot each and every day. We tell him too! Lots of hugs and kisses. There is GOD who believes in Zack and is showing us how to guide Zack in life. It isn't always going to be wonderful and great for him but each and every positive is one step closer to a better life for him as he grows older.
We have not heard anything from the natural Mom since my last posting and that is fine. She can just be happy in Arkansas with the choices she has made and we are delighted to have Zack, Katie and Jadden shining a special light of love in our lives.
So what are you doing for Christmas? Do you have any traditions? I would love to start some...especially for the grandbabies. My parents really didn't have a tradition that I can share, but they were always good to us and our Christmas was celebrated with our family, Aunts/Uncles/Grandparents and friends. I remember visiting my Grandpa Lucas' house and each family had a Christmas tree and under it was packed with presents from Santa. Their was always something special but one Christmas I received glass procelein dolls from around the world and just fell in love with them. I begged my Dad to build shelves above my drapes in my bedroom or a shelf so I could display them, he never did and they got broke and finally tossed away. I had twelve dolls and they were beautiful but I think Switzerland was the best one, she was just beautiful. They were the size of a Barbie doll and immaculately dressed. Wish I had those dolls today...not for the dollar value but for the sentimental value. My Grandpa died that next spring and we did not have another Christmas with his family again. Sad but true.
Well I shall sign off for now. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and my ramblings.
May God shine His light upon you, May you carry in your heart His everlasting love and share it with others around you!
Hugs!
Paula
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
December 1, 2010
Okay, what a day this has been. Beautiful is one word that comes to mind then gorgeous. We had snow today, the first official snow and we got about half and inch or so but it is so beautiful and I can't wait for more. Yes, I know you are thinking "This lady is nuts!" I am not, I just love the snow that is it...it is clean, fresh and when it falls it makes the world such a quiet place. The snow glistens in the sunlight and it is so pretty...like little diamonds on the ground. Zack came home from school and was outside playing in it. He and his Papaw walk down to the creek most every day that it is not raining and check the progress of the road. Today they walked and really had a nice time of it with the snowflakes falling around them.
I had some interesting moments the other night. I sent JRH a text message and she didn't know who I was. I had been told by a special friend that she was not with that guy any longer but found that to be untrue. Games is all they like to play and it is sad. She was hateful and really ugly and I have decided that she can be that way but I am not. I will not subject myself to her actions or anything about her again. I love her for she is my daughter and I carried her 10 months in my body and enjoyed her until she turned against her family as she did all because of a man...so as I said, I am done. I am sad about it but I know in the long run it is better for my peace of mind and my lifestyle. She is going to find out the hard way that she doesn't have any rights with these children and if push comes to shove, I pray I win---for Zack's sake!
We had a fire at work today. It was in the compounding area which is not close to our offices, but everyone had to be evacuated...including our production folks. It was snowing, it was blowing, it was cold and we had to go out as far away from the building as we could. We were out there a good 30-40 minutes...most of us could get our coats and head out the door...a lot of people were not able to get their coats...and they were pretty cold. Thank goodness they were permitted to get into their cars and sit and stay warm. The fire didn't do any damage which we are all thankful for.
Take care and thank you for taking a moment to read my ramblings...I love having a place I can write and get my feelings out...helps to heal the hurt and I get a lot of suggestions from caring folks!!
Hugs and GOD BLESS YOU!! Jesus is the Reason for the Season!
I had some interesting moments the other night. I sent JRH a text message and she didn't know who I was. I had been told by a special friend that she was not with that guy any longer but found that to be untrue. Games is all they like to play and it is sad. She was hateful and really ugly and I have decided that she can be that way but I am not. I will not subject myself to her actions or anything about her again. I love her for she is my daughter and I carried her 10 months in my body and enjoyed her until she turned against her family as she did all because of a man...so as I said, I am done. I am sad about it but I know in the long run it is better for my peace of mind and my lifestyle. She is going to find out the hard way that she doesn't have any rights with these children and if push comes to shove, I pray I win---for Zack's sake!
We had a fire at work today. It was in the compounding area which is not close to our offices, but everyone had to be evacuated...including our production folks. It was snowing, it was blowing, it was cold and we had to go out as far away from the building as we could. We were out there a good 30-40 minutes...most of us could get our coats and head out the door...a lot of people were not able to get their coats...and they were pretty cold. Thank goodness they were permitted to get into their cars and sit and stay warm. The fire didn't do any damage which we are all thankful for.
Take care and thank you for taking a moment to read my ramblings...I love having a place I can write and get my feelings out...helps to heal the hurt and I get a lot of suggestions from caring folks!!
Hugs and GOD BLESS YOU!! Jesus is the Reason for the Season!
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Preparing for the holidays
Well, it has been a busy week at the Hahn house. Preparing the house for Christmas and bringing in the holiday with cheer and happiness. Two trees are up and decorated working on the backroom tree and hopefully will get more accomplished before the 18th of December when Hahn-A-Days is happening. That is a time when family and friends pop in for a bit to visit and add to the Christmas Spirit in our home. I can't wait for it always is so nice to see family and friends!!
Zack is doing fair at school. He has had a few rough days and the counselor called me worried about a comment he made to her. He told her that once he is kicked out of this school, we will force him to go to Arkansas and live with his Mom. That is so untrue, we have never told him that and where he came up with that comment we don't know. We want him to live with us, to grow with us and most of all to be happy and safe. He is such a special little boy who misses his Mom a lot, he knows if he stayed with her he would not be happy he has told us that...but that does not take away his pain of missing his Mom. She is still writing letters, but we do not read them to him because he has had some emotional break downs and we do not want him to revert to being angry as he was last year. It is tough, I can't ever imagine that feeling of being left behind and not seeing your Mom for almost two years. She doesn't call at all and it is probably for the best...he has overcome a lot since she left and he has a long way to go.
The Special Education Coordinator from Warren County had a meeting with us and she suggested we put Zack in a new school come January 2011. It is for his speech and social behavior and deals with Autisum on a more extreme measure. The school he is in right now is mostly for behavior issue children and doesn't focus on the Autistic child. With the comment that he made to Ms. Heather, we are unsure if it would be a wise move to send him to the new school or not. I feel it would be very very good for his speech and social but would he feel he failed at the school he is in right now? Greg wants to wait until the fall next but I feel it would be more helpful this year...like I said it is a hard decision to make and what will be best for Zack. Keep Zack and us in your prayers guiding us the right way...
Well I received a call from a friend telling me that she is worried about Jessica for she had text messaged her wishing her a happy holiday. Chris (the man Jessica left with) called this friend back letting her know that he has no clue where Jessica is and if she would happen to hear from her, tell her to get with him about her junk. WOW...what is going on, where is she at? Is she back in Ohio? Will she just show up at the house unexpectedly? Did she have other children? So many unanswered questions and so little information to go on. I text messaged her old phone number but no call from the creep telling me he doesn't know where she is. Why is this going on? Where is she? Is she okay? I sure hope so but I don't want her around the kids...
On a lighter note...Christmas is only four weeks away...hope you are finding the Spirit within your heart to share with others. It is going to be a glorious time in our lives...
Jesus is the reason for this glorious time!! Celebrate His Birth...
Hugs!!
Zack is doing fair at school. He has had a few rough days and the counselor called me worried about a comment he made to her. He told her that once he is kicked out of this school, we will force him to go to Arkansas and live with his Mom. That is so untrue, we have never told him that and where he came up with that comment we don't know. We want him to live with us, to grow with us and most of all to be happy and safe. He is such a special little boy who misses his Mom a lot, he knows if he stayed with her he would not be happy he has told us that...but that does not take away his pain of missing his Mom. She is still writing letters, but we do not read them to him because he has had some emotional break downs and we do not want him to revert to being angry as he was last year. It is tough, I can't ever imagine that feeling of being left behind and not seeing your Mom for almost two years. She doesn't call at all and it is probably for the best...he has overcome a lot since she left and he has a long way to go.
The Special Education Coordinator from Warren County had a meeting with us and she suggested we put Zack in a new school come January 2011. It is for his speech and social behavior and deals with Autisum on a more extreme measure. The school he is in right now is mostly for behavior issue children and doesn't focus on the Autistic child. With the comment that he made to Ms. Heather, we are unsure if it would be a wise move to send him to the new school or not. I feel it would be very very good for his speech and social but would he feel he failed at the school he is in right now? Greg wants to wait until the fall next but I feel it would be more helpful this year...like I said it is a hard decision to make and what will be best for Zack. Keep Zack and us in your prayers guiding us the right way...
Well I received a call from a friend telling me that she is worried about Jessica for she had text messaged her wishing her a happy holiday. Chris (the man Jessica left with) called this friend back letting her know that he has no clue where Jessica is and if she would happen to hear from her, tell her to get with him about her junk. WOW...what is going on, where is she at? Is she back in Ohio? Will she just show up at the house unexpectedly? Did she have other children? So many unanswered questions and so little information to go on. I text messaged her old phone number but no call from the creep telling me he doesn't know where she is. Why is this going on? Where is she? Is she okay? I sure hope so but I don't want her around the kids...
On a lighter note...Christmas is only four weeks away...hope you are finding the Spirit within your heart to share with others. It is going to be a glorious time in our lives...
Jesus is the reason for this glorious time!! Celebrate His Birth...
Hugs!!
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Winter is close upon us...
October is past and November is upon us. The cold wind has been blowing today with rain and a threat of "snow showers" tomorrow when we wake up. I am not sure if I am ready for that but I guess I best get there.
Tonight while working with Z-man on getting his toys picked up in his room (there was not a place that did not have a Lego on the floor) he talked about the cold weather and when could we expect snow so Santa could come. I just laughed and said it wasn't Christmas yet we had to have Thanksgiving first and then we would work towards Christmas and Santa. He didn't seem to understand that and said he wanted it to be Christmas because his Mom might come to visit. That hit me like a ton of bricks. I know it has to be so hard on this little boy missing his Mom like he does but it came out of no where and really set me to thinking. This child has missed one Christmas without his Mom and doesn't realize he will probably miss more...especially this year. How do I tell him that? How do I explain it? So far we have always tried to be truthful and up front with what happened and try to explain what we feel about it all and let him talk out his feelings. He knows she left with her boyfriend, Chris and that Chris was abusive and not a very nice man. He knows she lives in Arkansas which is far away from Ohio and takes at least a day to get here. He also knows that she has been writing letters (3 to date) and gets to read each one. But that doesn't help me to explain to him why she won't make it this year for a very important holiday in his life.
I lifted this up in prayer to GOD and asked Him to help me find the right words. I feel in my heart that God just wants me to tell him the truth and guide him with love and understanding and give him all I can and that will help Z-man through this tough time. We shall see what the holiday brings but I hope it is not disappointment to Z-man or the girls.
We had our parent-teachers meeting and Z-man is on the A/B Honor Roll...he is doing quite well. We are very proud of him for he has come so far in a year. This time last year HE was really struggling with just staying in school, now he is there all day and has a few behavior issues...but all in all he is getting better and that is what we wanted to see. I feel he will be at this school for at least two more years, maybe longer but that is okay, they feel his needs and he feels secure and happy there. We adore his teacher for she takes a lot of extra time with him (and the other five students) to show him and guide him for a better education. We are truly blessed.
School pictures are in and they are adorable. Jadden's makes her look so grown up and Zack's shows his spectacular smile and you can see the twinkle of mischief in his eyes.
God be with you as you go through your days. Remember to lean on HIM for HE is there for us...we are His children and like a good Father, He is willing to love us and guide us to the what is best for us. We must be open to hear His calling!
Tonight while working with Z-man on getting his toys picked up in his room (there was not a place that did not have a Lego on the floor) he talked about the cold weather and when could we expect snow so Santa could come. I just laughed and said it wasn't Christmas yet we had to have Thanksgiving first and then we would work towards Christmas and Santa. He didn't seem to understand that and said he wanted it to be Christmas because his Mom might come to visit. That hit me like a ton of bricks. I know it has to be so hard on this little boy missing his Mom like he does but it came out of no where and really set me to thinking. This child has missed one Christmas without his Mom and doesn't realize he will probably miss more...especially this year. How do I tell him that? How do I explain it? So far we have always tried to be truthful and up front with what happened and try to explain what we feel about it all and let him talk out his feelings. He knows she left with her boyfriend, Chris and that Chris was abusive and not a very nice man. He knows she lives in Arkansas which is far away from Ohio and takes at least a day to get here. He also knows that she has been writing letters (3 to date) and gets to read each one. But that doesn't help me to explain to him why she won't make it this year for a very important holiday in his life.
I lifted this up in prayer to GOD and asked Him to help me find the right words. I feel in my heart that God just wants me to tell him the truth and guide him with love and understanding and give him all I can and that will help Z-man through this tough time. We shall see what the holiday brings but I hope it is not disappointment to Z-man or the girls.
We had our parent-teachers meeting and Z-man is on the A/B Honor Roll...he is doing quite well. We are very proud of him for he has come so far in a year. This time last year HE was really struggling with just staying in school, now he is there all day and has a few behavior issues...but all in all he is getting better and that is what we wanted to see. I feel he will be at this school for at least two more years, maybe longer but that is okay, they feel his needs and he feels secure and happy there. We adore his teacher for she takes a lot of extra time with him (and the other five students) to show him and guide him for a better education. We are truly blessed.
School pictures are in and they are adorable. Jadden's makes her look so grown up and Zack's shows his spectacular smile and you can see the twinkle of mischief in his eyes.
God be with you as you go through your days. Remember to lean on HIM for HE is there for us...we are His children and like a good Father, He is willing to love us and guide us to the what is best for us. We must be open to hear His calling!
Monday, October 18, 2010
The day will come
Yes, the day will come when Zack will find his place in life and be the person that HE wants to be. He will be a proud young man and do what is right for God and himself. We are teaching him to put GOD first in his life. It is hard but with time and patience he too shall learn.
How many times are we impatient for something to be "done", to be "fixed" and how many times have lost our patience because it wasn't done when "We thought it should be done"??? I ask you this question for you to think of the times that you lost your patience with your children, spouse, co worker, friend and yourself because things were not getting done in "your" time frame. Think about that for a moment while I continue...
I am a stickler for being on-time. I am most always early to work, I like being early to an event, I like to be on time to a doctor's appointment or something special. I don't like being late. Call it a phobia for me that being late is a crime. Being late is the worst that can happen to me...at my age you would think I would learn...I haven't yet. You all may laugh but I am truly a stickler for being early, you can ask my family, they know me and what I expected when they were young and as they grew older. "Be on time" was something I drilled into their brains! I slowly learning that being on time is good but if I am late it is not a crime and the world will not stop turning because I am late. I am working on it and will improve with time...I know I best hurry...I am not getting any younger!
This past 15 months has opened my eyes to exactly what I have expected of myself, Greg and my children. Boy, was I wrong to expect too much but then not enough...it is a catch 22 that I have been caught up in for way too long. Zack has taught (and still teaching) me a lot of things that I needed to rethink and to stop before I act upon my feelings. It is hard for I have always been a person who speaks her mind and feels comfortable with the results. How wrong I have been. Zack again has shown me that I must say what I mean and mean what I say. For instance, I want him to pick up his clothes, I must say exactly what I want him to do or he will do something entirely different. Having a child with Autisum has shown me that all things are possible if you take the right steps and not to set a time frame or expect too little or too much of them. It is a long journey for both of us but I think the end result will be the best for him. I look back at last year at this time and we were at our wits end. Today his school report showed he did not use anger to solve a problem, he just walked away and kept his hands to himself. For Zack that is a great milestone. I must say also that Zack has only missed 2 days so far this school year, compared to 17 from last year. He was sent home more times than he was in school for his aggressive behavior. He has improved quite a bit but still has a long road ahead of him...but the right steps are there and he sees them. Just learning to take the right steps is a challenge but I see him doing it! I am proud of him and he has truly shown that with God all things are possible for at this time last year I was doubting if I was the best choice to raise him...I am happy that we hung in there and found the right people to help us out...it has really improved him and me also!
Remember when I asked earlier in this blog if you get impatient when things are not done in YOUR time frame?? Try working with a child whose time frame is entirely different in his mind. His insight to things are eye openers. He shows me that I can't get impatient and expect him to complete it as I want it completed, I have to be more open to how he sees it being completed that I must wait it out and good things will come. Do you do this with GOD and your prayers? Do you pray expecting GOD to answer you and give you what you want? Regardless of the prayer being answered as you wanted, how about the time frame? Do you expect a quick response from GOD? Most of us will say yes, but if we think like Zack does, time is not what is most important it is the quality of the prayer that is most important and waiting for it to be answered as GOD feels best it to be answered. We are way too impatient and expect too much from GOD!! Why not step back and say your prayer and wait for HIM to show you the answer. It may not be as long as you think, especially if you trust in HIM and know that GOD will answer ALL prayers no matter how big or small they are, HE does answer them. We are HIS children and He does not get impatient or upset with us because we do not do it in HIS time. He is patient and kind and shows us every day that HE does work miracles everyday in our lives, we just have to be open enough to realize what HE has done and thank HIM for HIS good deeds in our lives. Zack has made me realize how GOD has truly worked in his young life. At 7 he has seen more than I have ever seen when it comes to anger, hatred, lies, drugs, booze and God only knows what else. At 7 he is struggling to overcome his past and be a better person. Every day that he has is a blessed one and I am so grateful that GOD gives me the strength to be one of the people guiding his young steps in life. He truly is a blessing from GOD and I thank GOD everyday that he is a part of our lives. I know one day he is going to grow up and move away but the time that I have with Zack right now will always have a special place in my heart. He truly is an angel sent from heaven to show me one of GOD's miracles of life!
Thank you for taking the time to read this post, I pray that you are patient and kind with those who are in your life. Take a moment and thank one person a day this week for something that they do special for you. It could be a co worker who just shared a smile or your spouse unloading the washer, or one of your children taking out the trash, or God painting the trees the lovely colors of fall! We are all truly blessed by God's many wonderful blessings in our lives! God Bless you!
How many times are we impatient for something to be "done", to be "fixed" and how many times have lost our patience because it wasn't done when "We thought it should be done"??? I ask you this question for you to think of the times that you lost your patience with your children, spouse, co worker, friend and yourself because things were not getting done in "your" time frame. Think about that for a moment while I continue...
I am a stickler for being on-time. I am most always early to work, I like being early to an event, I like to be on time to a doctor's appointment or something special. I don't like being late. Call it a phobia for me that being late is a crime. Being late is the worst that can happen to me...at my age you would think I would learn...I haven't yet. You all may laugh but I am truly a stickler for being early, you can ask my family, they know me and what I expected when they were young and as they grew older. "Be on time" was something I drilled into their brains! I slowly learning that being on time is good but if I am late it is not a crime and the world will not stop turning because I am late. I am working on it and will improve with time...I know I best hurry...I am not getting any younger!
This past 15 months has opened my eyes to exactly what I have expected of myself, Greg and my children. Boy, was I wrong to expect too much but then not enough...it is a catch 22 that I have been caught up in for way too long. Zack has taught (and still teaching) me a lot of things that I needed to rethink and to stop before I act upon my feelings. It is hard for I have always been a person who speaks her mind and feels comfortable with the results. How wrong I have been. Zack again has shown me that I must say what I mean and mean what I say. For instance, I want him to pick up his clothes, I must say exactly what I want him to do or he will do something entirely different. Having a child with Autisum has shown me that all things are possible if you take the right steps and not to set a time frame or expect too little or too much of them. It is a long journey for both of us but I think the end result will be the best for him. I look back at last year at this time and we were at our wits end. Today his school report showed he did not use anger to solve a problem, he just walked away and kept his hands to himself. For Zack that is a great milestone. I must say also that Zack has only missed 2 days so far this school year, compared to 17 from last year. He was sent home more times than he was in school for his aggressive behavior. He has improved quite a bit but still has a long road ahead of him...but the right steps are there and he sees them. Just learning to take the right steps is a challenge but I see him doing it! I am proud of him and he has truly shown that with God all things are possible for at this time last year I was doubting if I was the best choice to raise him...I am happy that we hung in there and found the right people to help us out...it has really improved him and me also!
Remember when I asked earlier in this blog if you get impatient when things are not done in YOUR time frame?? Try working with a child whose time frame is entirely different in his mind. His insight to things are eye openers. He shows me that I can't get impatient and expect him to complete it as I want it completed, I have to be more open to how he sees it being completed that I must wait it out and good things will come. Do you do this with GOD and your prayers? Do you pray expecting GOD to answer you and give you what you want? Regardless of the prayer being answered as you wanted, how about the time frame? Do you expect a quick response from GOD? Most of us will say yes, but if we think like Zack does, time is not what is most important it is the quality of the prayer that is most important and waiting for it to be answered as GOD feels best it to be answered. We are way too impatient and expect too much from GOD!! Why not step back and say your prayer and wait for HIM to show you the answer. It may not be as long as you think, especially if you trust in HIM and know that GOD will answer ALL prayers no matter how big or small they are, HE does answer them. We are HIS children and He does not get impatient or upset with us because we do not do it in HIS time. He is patient and kind and shows us every day that HE does work miracles everyday in our lives, we just have to be open enough to realize what HE has done and thank HIM for HIS good deeds in our lives. Zack has made me realize how GOD has truly worked in his young life. At 7 he has seen more than I have ever seen when it comes to anger, hatred, lies, drugs, booze and God only knows what else. At 7 he is struggling to overcome his past and be a better person. Every day that he has is a blessed one and I am so grateful that GOD gives me the strength to be one of the people guiding his young steps in life. He truly is a blessing from GOD and I thank GOD everyday that he is a part of our lives. I know one day he is going to grow up and move away but the time that I have with Zack right now will always have a special place in my heart. He truly is an angel sent from heaven to show me one of GOD's miracles of life!
Thank you for taking the time to read this post, I pray that you are patient and kind with those who are in your life. Take a moment and thank one person a day this week for something that they do special for you. It could be a co worker who just shared a smile or your spouse unloading the washer, or one of your children taking out the trash, or God painting the trees the lovely colors of fall! We are all truly blessed by God's many wonderful blessings in our lives! God Bless you!
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